Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward, is to set up a roleplay scenario. For example, “Remember when we were in Aruba and I was teasing you on the beach with my cleavage and later the sex was soooo hot?
Lauren suggests, “Imagine I’m a sex robot you can program to do whatever you want. Imagine if I had done [insert alternative sexy activity].” Some jumping off points, should you need: “What if you realized I was wearing a strap-on under my bikini?
Try sending off a “can’t wait to hear your voice tonight,” to leave them wanting more.
And feel free to use a pet bedroom name if you have one.
That way, you’re not going from, “Listen to this annoying ass thing that happened to me at the grocery store today,” to “you like that?
It helps if you’re already turned on before you talk on the phone.
And for sexy situations: caught with an erection, caught masturbating, being alone in a castle, deserted beach, or BDSM party.
Lauren says just like with IRL sex, it’s important to reconnect after phone sex with laughter and wind down talk after you both orgasm.
Maybe you hate the outdoors and would never in a million years be caught doing watersports.
There’s nothing stopping you from exploring a phone sex fantasy of getting it on in a raft in the lake when the lake..in your mind.