This little exercise will help you train your mind to stay calm and avoid spinning into a frenzy.
Rather than reflexively panicking when something seems amiss, set a deadline.
From then on, the relationship was no longer enjoyable.
Every interaction and conversation became a test to see exactly where he stood and how he felt.
But then you don’t hear from him for a day or two and immediately hit the panic button. In his mind, the relationship is going great, he’s happy to have met a great girl like you and he can’t wait to finish this big project so he can see you again. You’re relieved, but at the same time, you are so in it now.
And then the devastation starts to creep in…followed by the doubts. He’s happily going along doing his thing while you are knee-deep in heartbreak mode, mourning the loss of what could have been and trying to figure out where it all went wrong. You cling to the relationship even tighter because you remember how miserable it felt when you thought you lost it and you vow not to do anything to screw this up.